The ways in which we can see and interpret life and how it may affect our relationships
The ways in which we can see and interpret life and how it
may affect our relationships
Every single one of us irrespective of race, religion or
gender are completely unique and as a result how we view others and our
individual attitudes towards life will therefore be completely different. There
are three main ways how as a human race we view situations and relate to
others. It is likely that you will recognise traits of yourself in one of these
ways, if so it can be interesting to simply reflect on why you may see and view
things the way you do as it is only through self-reflection that we are able to
increase our awareness and understanding of not only ourselves but others also,
so as a result we are then able to relate to each other in a more effective
manner.
The first way is through seeing with our eyes using physical
sight alone in able to understand our view of a situation or person. This is also known as unconsidered observation,
with no insight or comprehension. We take things at face value and assume what
we initially see is the truth of the matter without looking at the bigger
picture. It is important to understand that the reality of a situation is rarely
what it may first appear to be.
An example is if you see a mother scolding her toddler, at
first you may presume she is a bad mother for speaking to her child in an upset
tone but then if you look deeper it may be that this same woman has been up
throughout the night with a child who has refused to sleep and been crying and
having tantrums nonstop for the past 10 hours, does your perception now change?
As a parent it is even likely you can relate to those feelings of pure
exhaustion, have you ever lost your patience in this situation? It happens to
the best of us. Therefore at first glance alone it is impossible to see,
recognise or appreciate the truth of the encounter.
People who fall into this way of thinking can often struggle
to maintain relationships and go from one relationship into the next in quick succession
often blaming their partners for the relationships not succeeding as they are
unable to recognise that their partner will not see things in the same way they
do and as a result this destructive approach will continue until a greater
sense of depth and self-awareness can be achieved.
The second way is through rational thought or Academia. This
is when you feel the truth of a situation is limited to your own experiences
and understanding, you will feel you need active proof before you believe
something to be true and you will use a method of observing and then forming a
diagnosis, a doctor is an example of this way of thinking. After an examination
you will be given a diagnosis of what the problem is based on the doctors
training and knowledge of the issue at hand. A person who has a thinking pattern such as
this will assume the truth is limited to their own personal knowledge, they
will feel there is nothing more to be learned about the situation that they do
not personally know.
People who look at life experiences in this manner usually
assume nothing is truth or fact unless it is scientifically proven to be so.
The third way of
viewing situations is through empathic relatability and feeling with the heart.
These people are often much more sensitive to the feelings of others and actively
make an effort to discover the unseen factors and understand the facts they are
able to see. Empathic thinkers perceive and accept a situation without bias and
are open to considering new levels of truth and ideas. They often work in the
humanistic professions and as a result relating to others on a compassionate
level is a natural way for them to communicate.
Seeing and taking the time to really feel with our hearts
what a situation really entails bring more empathy into our personal
relationships and we will be able to understand others view points and see the
situation with more compassion and clarity, enabling a feeling of mutual
wellbeing and support. This will then
mean we will be able to reflect back what we are sensing with our heart so our understanding
can be expanded and we will be able to realise that not everyone is on the same
journey through life and we all must all find our own individual paths and way
of viewing situations and relationships which provides us with the nourishment and
success that we are all ultimately seeking.
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