The LCB model for understanding people and why we think and act the way we do
The LCB model for understanding people and why we think and act the way we do
In order to
understand ourselves and other people better, it is important to become
familiar with the multiple energetic fields surrounding us which makes up our psych.
We are comprised of multiple layers meaning as human beings we are incredibly
complex, but by gradually unpeeling each layer we can become more familiar with
the reasons we think and behave from the inside out. There are 5 different layers
which enable us to understand how we experience life so what are these layers
and how do they interconnect?
The most outer layer is the physical, this is where we feel
symptoms, illness or injury. Conditions may occur in the body such as us
falling over and hurting ourselves, this is the least complicated layer to
understand as physical problems can often be relieved by visiting a doctor and
taking the necessary medicine or applying the relevant first aid. However
sometimes the physical layer can be interlocked with the emotional layer and
although the issue will begin emotionally it will become more evident on a
physical level. An example of this is obesity through comfort eating, caused by
needing to fill an emotional void, we may eat comfort foods to feel better
about ourselves, but then inevitably we gain excess weight which then makes us
feel even worse than before and so we eat more food hence the toxic cycle
continues until we can fully understand the emotional cause that triggers the
cravings in the first instance.
The layer within the
physical is the emotional, some of us are emotionally led by the choices we
make and how we live our lives. If we are fully connected within our bodies and
minds we will live a calm and balanced existence, however for the majority of
us this sense of awareness and internal balance can take some time to develop
and as a result we may initially live our lives with oblivion and a lack of parameters.
We may go through time acting on our emotions impulsively which can become all consuming,
our thoughts may start to control the way we behave and react which in some
instances if the necessary balance and grounding is not present can lead us
into destructive cycles such as becoming addicted to drink, drugs or sex which
will ultimately provide a temporary fix but on a long term basis will lead to an
inevitable negative effect on our self-esteem and sense of worth.
If we are emotionally led and not fully connected it can
seem that we are on an emotional roller coaster at times and we may not always
feel in control of our feelings, however it is important to understand that emotions
are not illnesses or conditions, they come and go and there is always a prior cause
for experiencing them. By channelling our thoughts and emotions we become more
able to become aware of our choices and the reasons that we live our lives the
way we do, which enables us to become more aware of our own personal boundaries
through a sense of empowerment and self-realisation.
The Rational layer is
within the emotional, this relates to the quality of our thoughts or how and if
we choose to label ourselves on a social basis. The emotional and rational can
again intertwine as the quality of our thoughts will impact how we feel about
ourselves. For example if we choose to think negatively about ourselves or
others this will inevitably damage our sense of worth, but if we think
positively the opposite is true, we become stronger and more fulfilled to make
better choices and our days are filled with positivity. Therefore the quality
of our thinking will impact our emotions and how we experience life as a
result. All too often people will expect changes to just suddenly occur in life
with no effort from them, but if you keep doing what you always have then that
is what you will always get and the same is true for our thought process. To
attract positive energy and opportunities we need to become aware of the
choices we are making and understand that you cannot expect others to make
ourselves feel better the change must come from within ourselves.
The Volitional layer is within the rational and again intertwines
as it relates to our ability to choose or free will. This is where we have the
ability to make well informed decisions and realise that we cannot change
within ourselves until the desire to do so remains greater than the desire to stay
the same. This also relates to other people, we cannot take responsibility for
how others choose to behave or live their lives that is their choice and they
are the ones responsible for it, yet how often can we find ourselves in this
position making excuses for poor behaviour from others. We are not responsible
for how our family members, partner, friends or children behave, we may have
had a huge impact on their development and character but ultimately we are all
responsible for our own lives. It can be helpful to really start to gain
insight into where your focus is which will provide a huge breakthrough in
providing the clarity you may be searching for, this may be peace, security, status,
freedom are you aware of what it is that is important to you? Some people will
desire freedom and yet find security a comfortable replacement and then spend
their lives feeling that something is missing but they cannot quite work out
what that is.
I spent over 30 years
of my life struggling with Anxiety and feeling helpless, not in control of my
own life and over whelmed due to not feeling completely connected within and as
a result I was not aware of what it was I really wanted and hence struggled
blindly through life, it was only after many years of intense self-development
that I gave myself the permission to pursue what was important to me as opposed
trying to please other people and as a result I became focused on pursuing my
goals and became very clear on what I did and didn’t want from my life. Although there are days when I still am
affected and triggered by Anxiety (I am only human and not perfect) I now know
how to manage it and it no longer controls my life, as I’m aware that I’m now
in control of my thoughts and feelings and as a result of this awareness and my
choices my life has completely changed. Other people may say or do things that
could cause you pain if you allow it, but you are the only one who can decide
how you will respond to that.
The Spiritual layer is the one most within and the deepest
plus most profound. Otherwise known as the koilia, translating to open space or
cavity this is where we discover what it is that really drives and motivates us
and as a result what defines us. If we do not understand our values and driving
force we will never understand why we make the decisions we do which was my
issue previously. Transformational change can only occur when we are able to be
completely honest with ourselves and look deep within which is not always something
we are comfortable to do, but which is essential if we are too grow and develop
and start to lead the lives that we really desire. Everything that has happened
and will happen in our life is a result of a choice we have made, due to previously
having low self-esteem I allowed some people to treat me disrespectfully in the
way they spoke to me and treated me. Initially I would blame others for making me
feel the way I did but this was a very immature way of understanding my
emotions and over time I realised that I had to take responsibility for
allowing bad behaviour from others and understand that I did not need to feel
pain or negativity, that was my personal choice to allow that into my body
which then took many years of healing mentally and physically to overcome.
The only person that
can control the way you think ,feel and your thought pattern is you and what a wakeup
call I found this too be, that day I stopped being a victim and found myself
and I have never looked back.
Over time I realised that people will only treat you the way
you allow them too, I am self-disclosing in the hope that it can help give
others the confidence to make those all essential changes, I did it and so can
you. Do not allow anyone to take away your power and understand that you will
never find happiness through material things. I used to try to fill an
emotional void by buying clothes that I would never wear or items I never
needed or used, they would provide a temporary fix but the permanent changes
came with having the courage to really delve within and heal from the inside
out. I now realise that the only
problems we will ever experience are when we are not clear on what it is we
want or how we can achieve it, if you are able to have the realisation to
discover this then your entire outlook on life will change as mine did.
By taking responsibility for your own choices and becoming
aware of what you really want and who you are spiritually you will become
incredibly empowered and discover an inner strength you never knew was
possible. Many people may label themselves according to their role for example
as a military person, managing director of a company, member of a wealthy and affluent
family and also a parent. However what happens to that person’s sense of who
they are when their role is taken from them such as leaving the military, the
company going bankrupt, the family losing their money through various means or
children growing up and leaving home ….What happens to your role then and how
do you reevaluate who you truly are?
Have you ever known
someone who goes from one relationship to another as they cannot be alone or
perhaps another is addicted to having multiple sexual relationships at the same
time with different partners or another will constantly comfort eat? Do you
know someone who always insists on drinking just that little too much or feels
the need to smoke constantly or is addicted to substance abuse? All these
patterns of behaviour are common but they are also all linked by the desire to
fill an empty void within and these patterns of behaviour help to do that but
does it really bring fulfilment and happiness long-term?
We will never know what drives and motivates others as we
are all different but the one way we are all intrinsically linked is the realisation
that having that empty core is a powerful motivator to create change, if we are
able to take ownership of who we are and what we really want we are able to
create a vision which will not only bring fulfilment through filling our core
but will ultimately bring happiness and peace to our hearts and minds as we
travel our path to living an authentic and fully connected life.
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