10 life lessons I had to learn




 10 life lessons I had to learn

Every topic I discuss I have personal experience of and the reason I do these posts is to help others so they don't need to make the same mistakes I did. When I was younger I was far too reckless with my heart and forever wearing it on my sleeve , which led to me getting hurt time and time again as a result now I'm much more careful with itl. So what has 53 years of relationships and life experience taught me?

Your value and worth are determined by the way you feel about yourself , not another person's opinion. Choose the partner who smudges your lipstick not your mascara!

People will only change destructive behaviour and habits if they want too and when they are ready too, not when you want them too. Don't try to change someone into somebody you want them to be , love them as they are or let them go.

You cannot and should not make excuses or take responsibility for another person's toxic behaviour, especially if it's causing you pain. When someone shows you who they are believe them!

You cannot lose something that is yours so let go of the fear and just trust ..if it's meant to be it will be. True love has to be recipitated, you can't fix or force someone to love you , they either do or they don't.

If someone hurts you once it's their fault if you allow it to happen again it's your fault. If someone truly loves, respects and values you they do everything in their power to make you feel safe, not stressed and anxious. Dont confuse love with infatuation.

If a romantic prospect keeps disappearing from your life don't let them come back into it unless you enjoy spending your time on an emotional rollercoaster.

People will treat you the way you allow them too so teach others how you want to be treated .

A person will show you how they truly feel about you by their actions not their words.

Date someone before you get physically involved , intimacy can really affect your judgement of who a person really is.

Protect your heart and do not give it away easily. It's your most precious commodity keep it for the one who truly deserves you.


Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
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