How can you recognise a narcissist or narcissistic behaviour?

 



How can you recognise a narcissist or narcissistic behaviour?

This is an essential topic to cover for emotional health because if you have ever known a person like this or been affected by their behaviour it is not only extremely damaging but has a long term effect on your sense of self,confidence and wellbeing. It can take some people many years to recover their sense of self love and self . So what is it that makes these kinds of personalities so toxic and how do you recognise them?
Narcissists can be male or female ,displaying some or all of the following qualities:
They feel self entitled and have a constant need for admiration from others and feel they deserve to be treated differently .
They are attracted to weak and vulnerable people and will lull them into a false sense of security and then use their weaknesses to exploit them or take advantage with no sense of guilt or shame as to the consequences of their behaviour.
They will use gaslighting techniques to control others and if they feel they are losing control of a person or situation will disappear or not respond to messages to make the recipient feel confused and upset.
In relationships they will make their partner feel they cannot manage without them and will lie to make their partner doubt themselves making them easy to control.
They are obsessed with their appearance and place great importance on everything being perfect.
They refuse to take responsibility for their own decisions choosing instead to blame others.
They exaggerate their achievements to make them seem much more impressive than they actually are.
They live in a fantasy world which is completely delusional .
They have very high expectations of others and expect them to live up to what their idea is of the 'perfect person' if you fall short in anyway they will ridicule you or make you doubt your self worth .
They are very sensitive to criticism and do not take it well. Instead of taking responsibility and changing their behaviour they will instead criticize you because in their eyes they are perfect.
They rarely apologize but if they do it is not sincere and will soon revert back to their original toxic behaviour.

How to leave a narcissistic relationship

I wanted to cover this as I myself have been involved in them more than once and I didn't learn my lesson the first time sadly. My experience of these relationships are they were exhausting, draining, critical and very damaging on my sense of self worth. I can speak about these things now because I have had real life experience and I want to prevent others from engaging in such relationships to preserve their own emotional health.
It can take years to recover following these relationships, narcissists will initially come across as very charming and smother you with affection until you fall in love with them . Once this happens you become more vulnerable and are therefore easier to manipulate and control. They also thrive on being idolised and will play to that making it seem that you cannot function or survive without them.
Leaving this kind of relationship is never easy but it is essential for your emotional health. If you stay you will not only completely lose your sense of self but will become vulnerable to toxic behaviour including gaslighting, monitored movements, control, manipulation, lying,cheating and deceit, humiliation, intimidation and emotional,physical,mental and spiritual abuse.
First of all acknowledge that no matter how much you love them, they will never change. Learn to set boundaries and develop a support network around you. Keep a record of the abuse and if necessary seek legal assistance. Narcissists may come across initially as charming but they are dangerous predators .
If possible find the strength to leave for your own self preservation and when you do refuse communication, do not look at them on social media, take time to heal before engaging in a new relationship and surround yourself with people who genuinely love and support you. Narcissists try to drive wedges between you and loved ones as they want to be your focus so it may take some time to adjust, if necessary seek counselling or some kind of support.
Try to see people for who they are not for the image they portray . Healthy relationships should lift, empower and enhance your life ...not weaken you and destroy it.

Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
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