How to tell if a person has high or low self esteem

 

How to tell if a person has high self esteem?

What are some ways that you can tell?

Accept who they are and what they look like and do not apologise for it or try to change themselves in any way to fit in with society's expectations .

Not afraid to take responsibility for their choices,instead of blaming others .

Realistic about situations with no unrealistic expectations.

Open and honest, not afraid to express their thoughts,needs,desires and opinions.

Consider themselves equal to others and speak plus treat themselves and others kindly. Do not speak negatively or instigate / participate in behaviour that would deliberately harm others.

They celebrate their own personal achievements,but also other people's. They encourage other people to achieve their goals and dreams also, because they want them to succeed as they are not jealous or threatened by other people's success.

They are not afraid to set healthy boundaries and say no when needed. They know they are good enough exactly as they are

They do not criticise themselves or others. They avoid negativity and toxic people .

They do not use,abuse or try to control others as they are aware this behaviour is toxic and does not sit well with them as they are aware it lowers their own vibration. They prefer to help people see their strengths and feel empowered instead of focussing on their weaknesses. They are not afraid to walk away from relationships or situations where they feel they are not being respected or loved unconditionally.

They love and accept others as they are with no conditions or expectations.

They express confidence and positivity and are open to learning about self growth and contributing to the world around them.

How to tell if a person has low self esteem

They are very critical of every part of themselves and other people .

They are unable to accept compliments and downplay their abilities or successes .

They are not happy with their appearance and will often be self critical.

They are easily controlled and manipulated by toxic people who see them as weak or they may try to control others due to their own internal fear of losing them.

They prioritise pleasing others above themselves.

They speak to themselves and others in a negative way.

They struggle to say no and set boundaries when needed.

They focus on their own and other people's flaws instead of their strengths.

They are jealous and resentful of other people's success.

They feel they are not good enough to achieve their goals even if others see their potential.

They struggle to make decisions and often doubt themselves .

They binge on food,drink,smoking,drugs or sex as a way to either punish themselves or to help them feel better about themselves.

They do not take responsibility for their decisions ,choosing to blame others instead.

They may bully or ridicule others to make themselves feel better .

They engage in activities that they know will cause them harm as they have no regard for their own heath or safety.

They are afraid to voice their thoughts or opinions for fear of judgement or what other people may think of them.

They always see the negatives in a person or situations as opposed the positives or opportunities

They can often go into victim mode and tend to not take constructive criticism well.

Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
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