Why do some people and not others struggle with saying no and setting boundaries that make them feel safe and respected?

 



Why do some people and not others struggle with saying no and setting boundaries that make them feel safe and respected?

There are many reasons why but here are a few of the most common:
Family or cultural expectations
From childhood you would have been taught what was expected from you and going against those cultural beliefs even though it is what you want may make you feel as an outcast from your family and you may fear the consequences of what may happen if you go against what is expected.
Personal fears
There may have been an event in life that can trigger fear when confronted by a situation which weakens the resolve making it easy for you to fall victim to those with unhealthy agendas or intentions towards you.
Insecurities
A lack of self worth and belief can make you feel that you do not have the strength to stand up for what you believe in. This is commonly seen in partnerships when the dominant partner is very controlling which affects the emotional strength of the other partner who has been conditioned to not speak up for fear that the dominant partner will leave and although they are not happy they choose to stay as opposed to being on their own. Control is not love it is a way to manipulate and weaken and is often caused by fear and insecurity of the person being controlling .
People pleasing
There is a healthy balance between being respectful towards others and learning to say no. Without boundaries you will attract toxic individuals ,those who will see you as weak and easily manipulated . There is nothing wrong with saying no but the fear of judgement and rejection can often make it difficult for those with a low self worth.
Gender expectations
Society can dictate the traditional roles of what is expected which can make it difficult to break away and yet it is only through changing your mindset and realising you will never please everyone that you can take back your personal power and live the life you have always wanted as opposed to the one that others expect you too.

Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
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