Why do some people feel a sense of shame or embarrassment when it comes to talking about or engaging in sexual pleasure?

 



Why do some people feel a sense of shame or embarrassment when it comes to talking about or engaging in sexual pleasure?

Sexual pleasure between two healthy consenting adults is the most natural thing in the world and it is our birthright to enjoy pleasure so why do some people feel so uncomfortable discussing it?
Depending on our upbringing and how open our parents were and their views on sex can have a huge impact on how we come to view it, particularly if our family have religious beliefs or there are cultural expectations or a social stigma growing up. If so there may be a sense of shame or feeling that sex is somehow ',dirty' but it is the way we reproduce our population so it is essential for human growth and expansion.
Having a negative sexual experience particularly in childhood can be extremely damaging to how sex will be viewed so instead of something pleasurable it will be seen as a source of control and pain, medical conditions can cause sex to be painful so it becomes a chore to satisfy others as opposed to gaining pleasure ourselves. or even having sex again after pregnancy or the menopause can feel different as hormones in the body have adjusted so the same sensations that were felt before are no longer the same.
Media portrayal can be toxic as we are constantly bombarded by what the perfect relationship should be, but in reality is any relationship perfect? So many young women are pressurised to feel they need to look a certain way to be desirable and if they don't fit the mould noone will want them. This causes so many issues with mental.health and the sad issue is that social media is full of women exploiting themselves sexually for attention but at what cost to how other women are then viewed?
On a different note ,relationship issues will affect sexual connection because if one partner is not feeling respected ,safe or loved that will often be the first thing affected and therefore good communication is essential . The same with mental health concerns or physical illness communicating with your partner and checking in is essential to ensure they are feeling loved and cared for at all times. It can make every difference .

Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
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