Why is consent so important in any sexual relationship? What are the different kinds of boundaries?

 



Why is consent so important in any sexual relationship?

Mutual respect,honesty, communication and obtaining consent is essential in any intimate relationship to ensure both partners have the same intention and feel completely safe with one another.
If one partner has an agenda or expectations to satisfy their own desires and take advantage of the other partner , before they feel ready or with no consent or consideration from them as to how they are feeling it is classed as sexual assault. Your body and your sexuality belong to you and it is your choice, who you share them with and when , they do not belong to anyone else and this includes your partner.
This is why asking for consent is so important because it not only shows respect for your partner and yourself but it immediately eliminates any confusion which can be caused due to the sense of entitlement that one partner may feel they have over their spouse, particularly if they are in a relationship.
Healthy sexual relationships between two people are based on mutual respect, honesty , communication, consideration and care. Consent builds trust so you can grow together in shared values and feel fully respected and valued at all times.
It is your choice when, how and with whom you chose to share your body with, you do not 'belong ' to anyone else you are your own person and you have the right to say no at any time particularly if you are not feeling safe or respected and your partner should respect that.
There is a huge difference between being intimate with someone out of choice where the experience will be pleasurable and leave you feeling loved and respected as opposed to being in a toxic relationship where there is no mutual consent and the relationship is based on control and expectations which will ultimately leave you feeling used and violated which in the long term will have a detrimental impact on your own sense of self worth and self esteem.

What are the different kinds of boundaries?

There are different kinds of boundaries within sexual health which also apply to other aspects of our lifestyle , they are all equally focussed on mutual respect and healthy communication and they are as follows:
Sexual boundaries
Consenting and having honest conversations about experimenting sexually and what feels comfortable for each partner.
Emotional boundaries
Ensuring your heart, wellbeing and health are protected by deciding how much of your energy, thoughts and emotions will be conveyed into the relationship. Having the ability to recognise healthy behaviour within yourself and others to maintain your sense of who you are.
Physical boundaries
Deciding and if necessary setting limits as to where you feel your personal space needs to be in regard to touch or other contact.
Time boundaries
Deciding how much time and effort you want to spend on any given situation or decision.

Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
www.yourcuddletherapy.co.uk   heal@yourcuddletherapy.co.ukwww.yourinnerglow.co.uk         heal@yourinnerglow.co.ukwww.yourtantrictouch.co.uk      heal@yourtantrictouch.co.uk

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