How to explore your sexuality in a safe way?


 How to explore your sexuality in a safe way?

Society, social conditioning and cultural norms can often dictate how we feel we should present ourselves sexually but what if we are not sure how we feel sexually or what or who we feel will give us the pleasure we are searching for ?
The fear of judgement from others or not being accepted can often force so many people to not be honest about their true sexuality and who or what it is that they are really attracted too.
The most important thing is to be honest not only with loved ones but more importantly with yourself because if you are not you are only living a lie and eventually you will either get found out or you will become so suppressed and unhappy within yourself that your health will begin to suffer. If you are not willing to embrace and accept your own identity then how can you expect other people to do so?
Understanding our sexuality can be a very confusing time especially when we are adolescents as we do sadly live in a society that can be cruel and judgemental, which is why talking to a trusted friend, family member of therapist can help to give clarity. Whilst it is important to be honest with your own feelings, it is also important to be patient with yourself during this time.
The only way you can determine what brings pleasure is through experimenting so do so in a safe place obviously using the relevant protection to prevent unwanted sexually transmitted diseases. Whilst practising safely and responsibility ensure you respect your body and limits, do not be afraid to set down boundaries when needed and ensure you respect other people's boundaries also.
Communication is key Prior to sexual exploration discuss what you feel you would like to try and only do what you feel comfortable doing. if something does not feel right, then listen to your instincts. It may be that it is not right for you in that moment or at all and although experimenting will mean you need to become more open you should not at any time feel uncomfortable or not in control of what is happening. You should feel safe and respected at all times, if not I would suggest choosing a new partner or your way of interacting .

Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
www.yourcuddletherapy.co.uk   heal@yourcuddletherapy.co.ukwww.yourinnerglow.co.uk         heal@yourinnerglow.co.ukwww.yourtantrictouch.co.uk      heal@yourtantrictouch.co.uk

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