What is toxic love ?

 

What is toxic love ?

It can be difficult sometimes if we are in a relationship to admit that it is toxic particularly if we feel we are in love with our partner or have children or other commitments tied with them. So how can you recognise if your relationship is healthy or toxic? A healthy relationship is based on your partner accepting you exactly as you are and not trying to change you into being someone else that he or she feels you should be .
In a toxic relationship you will feel unsupported, demeaned,misunderstood,manipulated ,shamed and controlled. It is common for the toxic partner to use techniques such as ignoring or gas lighting to cause confusion and further upset to regain control if they feel they are losing it.
In addition to this, common traits the toxic partner will show are emotional manipulation, guilt tripping or using threats to get their own way or to get their partner to act in a certain way that pleases them, pressurising others into doing this with no thoughts or care as to the effect it will have on the partner.
This is clearly unhealthy,selfish and manipulative behaviour which will leave the other partner feeling pressurised, stressed and emotionally drained. Control will often be asserted by the toxic partner using power dynamics as leverage to manipulate their partner and influence their decisions and actions in order to control their movements , particularly if the toxic partner is the main bread winner and the other partner feels they are reliant on them.
They may tell their partner they are only acting this way to protect their best interests, or looking out for them but in reality they are prioritising their own self interests by attempting to brain wash their spouse into believing what they want them to believe.
Toxic love and exploitive love is based on control, dominance and manipulation when the toxic partners main intention and agenda is solely on his needs with no care or thoughts as to the effects his behaviour will have on his or her spouse.
In the long term the spouse will be left feeling totally reliant, plus emotionally, mentally and physically drained which sadly will be the consequences of the toxic relationship.


Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
www.yourcuddletherapy.co.uk   heal@yourcuddletherapy.co.ukwww.yourinnerglow.co.uk         heal@yourinnerglow.co.ukwww.yourtantrictouch.co.uk      heal@yourtantrictouch.co.uk

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