Why can your feelings change so quickly following a casual sexual encounter?



 Why can your feelings change so quickly following a casual sexual encounter?

Casual sex can simply be a way of exchanging energy in addition to pleasure. However unfortunately following casual intimacy it can be an upsetting and confusing time for some partners, especially if they are very sensitive or had unrealistic expectations as to what the encounter could potentially lead too.
In an ideal world both partners are completely honest with each other prior to intimacy so expectations can be managed. Unfortunately this is not always the case so what are some reasons one partner can lose interest following casual sexual encounters?
One partner may have an agenda , they will lie and manipulate the other solely to use them for their pleasure, telling them what they feel they would want to hear to build trust and intimacy as soon as possible and then once they have been satisfied will withdraw completely , because no further connection was ever in their plans. Unfortunately this toxic behaviour will then lead to confusion and future issues with trust for the affected partner.
One partner may feel the other is easy, losing respect for them or they may feel they have a habit of sleeping with everyone straight away, even if this isnt true it can be very easy to be judgemental especially if it is someone you do not know well.
One partner may already be married or in a partnership and is afraid of expectations from the other or their own feelings developing and feeling conflicted or guilty as a result.
One partner can get caught up in the moment once the endorphins start flowing lust and attraction can be difficult to control but in the harsh light of the next day the situation can look and feel very different particularly if alcohol is involved!
Therefore it is important to know within yourself what you are looking for from that person. If it is purely pleasure with no
ties or expectations and the other person is aware ,then enjoy the pleasure but if you are looking for something more then consider holding off, at least until you have discovered what their true intentions are towards you, to avoid any confusion.

Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
www.yourcuddletherapy.co.uk   heal@yourcuddletherapy.co.ukwww.yourinnerglow.co.uk         heal@yourinnerglow.co.ukwww.yourtantrictouch.co.uk      heal@yourtantrictouch.co.uk

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