How is sensuality different to sexuality? …the principle
differences
Sensuality can sometimes be confused with sexuality as it
can seem that the two entwine which they do to some degree so what is the definition
of both terms and what are the differences?
Being sensual and feeling that energy within your body is
not solely connected to having a healthy sex drive although that can be a part
of it. However if you delve deeper into sensuality it becomes apparent that to
really feel that sensuality within yourself first of all you need slow down
your rhythm of thought and really focus on your senses within.
We all have 5 basic senses of sight ,hearing, smell, touch
and taste which help us to perceive the world around us and enable us to relate
to it but how many of us really do focus into our senses because that is the
key and first step to feeling and becoming more sensual in our body and mind.
For example you may be enjoying a meal, do you simply just eat the food you
prepared with no thought or do you savour the texture, colour and appearance,
if you are taking a walk in the park do you take a direct route with no
awareness of what is around you or do you listen to the wind rustling the
leaves or become aware of the vibrations and energy from the trees as you pass
by?
Everything in creation is made from energy and we all have
the ability to feel it if we are able to just slow down and become more aware
of the world around us this is a lesson I had to learn, I spent too many years
of my life rushing around and working excessive hours which enabled me to
achieve an important goal and yet in the process also saw me miss out on so
many important life experiences. It was only when I slowed down and began to
focus within myself and not on the outside world that I really began to connect
to my sensuality and as a result tantra became an essential part of my life.
Through that inner connection part of my work as a therapist is now helping
others to discover that sensuality and connection within their own bodies so
that sensuality can become a way of life for them rather than just a physical
pleasure.
It is our birth right to feel that sensuality within
ourselves as our body was made to feel pleasure which does not always come from
sexual experiences, so why is it that some of us feel afraid of being sensual?
There are numerous reasons Religion, unrequited desire or fear of judgement
from others can all be governing factors that can result in us feeling a sense
of guilt or repression. Perhaps you had a very strict upbringing also and sex
was never discussed hence making it almost impossible for you to connect with
yourself and your body on a sensual basis for fear or what others may feel or
think.
So how can we learn to clear the blocks within so we can
learn to connect more fully with our sensuality? The first step is to release
all limiting beliefs through inner child work and self-nurturing. Give yourself
permission to feel pleasure in all forms and through all the senses, allow your
body to play and experiment with what does and doesn’t give you pleasure.
Create a sensual self-ritual where you get familiar with your mind and body this
goes so much deeper than simply experiencing physical pleasure, why not prepare
yourself a bubble bath with candles and soft music then as you feel your body
unwind become aware of the ripples on the water, the warmth on your skin and
the flickering light of the candle flame. Becoming and activating your
sexuality is only possible through being completely present with every
experience as that is what heightens your sexual element, paving your path so
you can become fully aware of what your body does and does not enjoy and
finding the balance between feeling free to enjoy pleasure yet also able to set
healthy boundaries when necessary.
Our sensuality resides in our lower chakras and energy
centres which also governs our feelings of safety and security and therefore
finding that essential balance is very important to enable us to explore freely
and yet still feel safe. So if sensuality is the ability to feel through the
senses and connect internally what is sexuality? We all have an animal instinct
inside of us an urge or desire to connect and intertwine with others our body
is made to feel pleasure otherwise we would have been designed a different way ,feeling
arousal is a natural and healthy state
of mind and this is raw sexuality and yet the two are so very different.
Sensuality is a way of life, it is taking the journey to
release the inner blocks so you are able to feel true bliss and connection with
not only your own body and mind but also your partners, it is our life energy. Sexuality
is a pure animal instinct to have our desires fulfilled, it’s a physical drive
not needing a connection within or with another and yet sensuality can and does
exist without sexuality and yet sexuality cannot exist without sensuality.
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