What are the signs of someone who may be lacking in self love and what are the most common reasons for it?


 

What are the signs of someone who may be lacking in self love?

The relationships we form in our lives will have a huge impact and influence on both our mental and physical health affecting our confidence and self esteem on our journey throughout life, so choose your relationships carefully and listen to your instincts , if it does not feel right or is affecting your wellbeing do not be afraid to walk away and break the toxic cycle as we attract to us people who reflect back to us the way we feel about ourselves!
If the relationships we have experienced since childhood have been loving, present and supportive, we will naturally grow to become self assured , happy and confident individuals but if the relationships have been toxic, abusive or emotionally unavailable we will naturally reflect this both in the relationships we have with ourselves in addition to the relationships we share with others.
So what are some of the signs that someone may be lacking in self love or self esteem?
People pleasing , unable to say no to others
Avoiding life challenges or changes due to a fear of the unknown
Trying to be perfect at all times because of a fear of rejection
Abusing their bodies through eating disorders, or addictions such as drugs or alcohol abuse in an attempt to numb or block out inner pain or insecurities
A low resilience to cope under Stress due to a fear of judgement from others or being afraid to be seen as weak
Self criticism due to a lack of self worth
Jealousy/putting others down to make themselves feel better
Low immunity, prone to illness due to Anxiety weakening the immune system
Risk of self harming due to a low self worth or desperately seeking attention due to feeling unseen or acknowledged
Unable to take compliments as they feel they are not worthy
Unable to set healthy boundaries due to a lack of self worth and therefore tend to get taken advantage of .
People with high levels of self esteem set healthy boundaries which naturally repel toxic partners because they will recognise that they will not be able to mistreat, manipulate or control them , all negative traits which stem from fear and unresolved healing.

What are the most common causes of low self esteem?

There are numerous reasons that a person may be struggling with self esteem issues and it is often due to encountering one of the issues below. As a result we give up our power and forget our worth which leaves us vulnerable for others to take advantage of, control or manipulate which only lowers our self esteem even further.
Constantly comparing themselves to the stereotypes portrayed on social media and feeling not good enough .
Having a mental or physical health care concern.
Bullying at school, in the work place or trolling on social media
Feeling judged and experiencing criticism from teachers or those in authority.
Emotionally distant or unavailable parents or caregivers.
Parents who were in constant conflict throughout childhood
Physically ,emotionally or mentally abusive relationships .
Trauma in childhood including sexual abuse .
Constantly being compared to others and feeling ridiculed.
Being turned down for promotions at work on a regular basis
Cultural belief systems that make you feel guilty or shameful for wanting to take another path in life .
Social pressures and expectations .


Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
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