What is sexual Anxiety?



 What is sexual Anxiety?

Sexual Anxiety can affect both men and women equally and is the fear of having sex or being intimate with a partner. It can be caused by many different reasons all of which create tension and negativity.
Giving and receiving pleasure should ideally be something we enjoy as it is our birthright to enjoy this degree of connection and yet sexual Anxiety can be triggered at any time during intimacy from feeling aroused to orgasm.
So what are some of the reasons it can occur?
Guilt or a sense of shame which can come from.a very strict or religious upbringing where sex was viewed purely for reproductive reasons and not for pleasure.
Performance Anxiety can be triggered due to a fear of not wanting to disappoint the partner or be judged sexually.
Concerns in relation to contracting sexually transmitted diseases or telling a potential partner about one you may already have and being worried about being judged or feeling a sense of shame.
Not being attracted to your partner due to their body shape, smell, taste or lack of sexual chemistry or desire. If your partner feels you are simply going through the motions just to please them with no enjoyment it will destroy arousal within them towards you.
Initial sexual encounters with a new partner can create Anxiety as you are only just exploring what gives them pleasure and if you are willing and capable of satisfying their sexual desires and needs.
Criticism from previous partners or lovers on sexual performance can have a huge effect on confidence and sustaining arousal .
Sexual trauma can take years to heal until the affected partner feels comfortable and safe enough to even attempt penetration and when they do it will inevitably take time until they are able to relax and enjoy it as their subconscious mind will associate sex with pain and fear not desire and pleasure.
Starting a new relationship or continuing in a relationship where one partner has an affair or was unfaithful and trust plus connection has been destroyed between the couple.
Blockages and a lack of blood supply cause issues but Stress,guilt or Shame are most common concerns creating multiple problems.

Elizabeth Lock      Holistic Therapist 
www.yourcuddletherapy.co.uk   heal@yourcuddletherapy.co.ukwww.yourinnerglow.co.uk         heal@yourinnerglow.co.ukwww.yourtantrictouch.co.uk      heal@yourtantrictouch.co.uk

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